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    Thursday, December 10, 2015
    Let me write this down before I've forgot bout it, which I do a lot lately... can you believe I left my handbag yesterday in the motorcycle basket and just remember it when I already halfway to work and I need to turn back, because the bike was park in house compound and it super obvious and everyone can see my handbag. Luckily, I get back before somebody got any idea of stealing it.

    Back to topic. Honestly I think the key to perfect marriage hold in the hand of  a woman, the WIFE. Why I said that was, as long as she can KEEP her husband HAPPY, and do not think bout her pitiful emotion, the marriage would last for ever and ever and she just might won the best-est lady of the house.

    Some of the point might be worth remembering:

    1) NEVER EVER get mad at your husband, no matter what. He has the absolute right to be angry and all the argument, better keep your mouth shut and best to tolerate and just let him win.
    2) NEVER ASK for anything especially for a romantic kind of gesture, just pray hard that he would just remember to kiss you each morning before going to work.
    3) KEEP your thought to yourself, because once you materialized it, it did not matter and you will only sound ungrateful. Don't he love you enough already, why are you even complaining.. it doesn't make sense right
    4) LET HIM DO what he wish for, going against it will only bring another argument which he will not bother to admit any fault (and again the fault is on you), or even try to comfort your aching heart. You just make it worst for yourself
    5) Lastly and the most important part is, HE IS ALWAYS RIGHT. No matter what the argument. Just do yourself a favor and just agree with it. You could always suppress your anger and act if everything is normal. You do love him and you love your family right...


    Hahahaaa... but please this is only a guideline (please read it with sarcasm mode on)...

    The risk is yours to take.

    Happy Marriage!

    www.tips-fb.com Something from facebook

    Thursday, November 26, 2015
    People say a lot of things. Last time we said it among friends, now we share it on facebook. Usually I would try not to say or reply anything if the post only garner negativity or hatred, but seriously, we can turn into an ugly monster on the social network. It's like now we finally have the platform so that the bogeyman can come out from its hiding behind our darkest side.

    Well, one post has caught my eyes recently. Actually it is a posting about some drama going on TV3. I am never a big fan of drama anyway, I only followed the one which I seriously like and I do it via streaming. Now seem like I am getting less and lesser time to spent. The agony of being old, how time flies!!!

    Back to the facebook posting, it is a simple sentence" I tak suka kids/kanak2" lebih kurang lah ayat dia... well, a simple word and all the harsh comment keep pouring in condemning those who didn't fancy kids. Reading all the harsh comment (actually I find it interesting to read people comment while making none of my own), it did struck me, I never view myself belong to the category of people who like or fancy kid. Really, I am not lying. Actually, I seriously don't know how to comment/act when kids I don't know approach me and wanted to play or simply wanted my attention. I just smile and try hard to avoid that position. Is that make me a bad person? U tell me.. hahhaa...

    Anyway, I don't hate kids. I am a mother myself. It is easy to love kids when they are your own or related to you, but to just pick any random kids and throw them at me, I will just runaway (exception for the special kids which I found I could easily relate because of Hannah). And if the kids is sweet and well manner and cute, adorable, which everyone would love, I am no exception. :)

    So people, if you met a person who did not adore your kids, just let them be. You can't force people affection to your child. No one could ever adore and love your kids as much as you do!

    www.tips-fb.com Words

    Monday, November 23, 2015
    I am never good with words. I do have difficulty expressing myself. I am undeniably feel confuse all the time.

     I doubt u understand me. Nobody ever manage to understand me. Even I myself feel lost most of the time.

    My mission was and always be to make the people around me happy, but when you have try so HARD and people don't even realize that you are trying, it just break my heart. Really...

    These feeling I have been chasing away, are returning with a vengence. I dont know how long I could cope. Maybe... Just maybe one fine day I might cracked... And it would all be too late...

    Just maybe...

    www.tips-fb.com Nur Hannah Safiya binti Ahmad Khalil

    Tuesday, April 08, 2014


    Sudah lama tidak bercerita diblog ini. Sejak Hannah dilahirkan, blog ini umpama ditinggalkan begitu saja. Bukan tidak ingin berkongsi cerita mengenai Hannah, tapi sungguh, sejak mempunyai dua anak yang sama-sama memerlukan perhatian, banyak perkara hanya ditolak ketepi. Children come first, as always (and husband second? hahaha.. actually all of them are equally important, tapi daddy kan dah besar, pandai2 jaga diri yer)

    Nur Hannah Safiya kini bakal mencecah usia 6bulan. Dia dilahirkan secara normal pada 17/10/2013 pada pukul 3.30ptg dengan berat 3.13kg dan panjang 48cm. Proses kelahirannya berjalan lancar tanpa sebarang komplikasi. Setelah diinduce, dan doktor pecahkan air ketuban, Hannah lahir dengan suara tangisan nyaring yang sangat merdu. Aku hanya mampu bersama dengannya seketika sahaja sebab terpaksa disorong ke OT berikutan uri terlekat dan Hannah pula ditolak terus ke NICU.

    Sebulan lebih Hannah berada di NICU dan aku pula didiscaj dari hospital setelah 2 hari bermalam disana. Bermulalah episod ulang-alik ke hospital untuk melawat Hannah dan menghantar bekalan susu ibu. Hari demi hari, sebak hati melihat Hannah yg lahirnya tembam tapi makin hari makin susut badannya. Masa tu sukar nak memangku Hannah disebabkan Hannah attached kepada mesin oksigen dan beberapa peralatan yang memantau tekanan darah dan jantung hannah.

    Pada 28/11/2013, akhirnya panggilan yang ditunggu tiba. Doktor menelefon ke rumah menyatakan Hannah sudah boleh pulang. Alhamdulillah, lega rasanya. Walaupun beberapa kali Hannah terpaksa tinggal diwad berikutan jangkitan pada darah, akhirnya doktor benarkan juga Hannah pulang.Berat Hannah ketika discaj hanyalah 2.45kg. Sangat halus dan fragile.

    Banyak temujanji dan rawatan susulan yang perlu Hannah hadapi dan Hannah terpaksa memakan 9jenis ubat setiap hari, tapi Hannah nampak sihat dan belum pernah jatuh sakit lagi. Keputusan bloodtest, TFT test selalunya okay. Kini kami sedang menunggu untuk dapatkan tarikh bagi pembedahan jantung Hannah. Menurut doktor seeloknya Hannah dibedah seusia 6bulan, tapi itu juga bergantung pada kondisi serta berat badan Hannah.

    Nur Hannah Safiya, 5bulan dengan berat 3.26kg, sudah pandai tersenyum, sangat manja denganku, suara halusnya sangat comel bila membebel dan aku sangat bahagia dengan kehadirannya. Apa yang sangat menyentuh hati, bila melihat kasih Zulaikha terhadap Hannah. Walaupun Zulaikha baru hendak mencecah usia 2 tahun, tapi boleh nampak kasih sayangnya pada Hannah. Zulaikha akan mengelap lelehan susu dimulut Hannah ketika menyusu, sentiasa mencium Hannah, suka Hannah menggenggam jarinya, jika Hannah dipegang oleh orang lain termasuk disesi terapi, Zulaikha lah yang kecoh suruh Hannah diletakkan ke bawah, dan dialah yang bising kalau Hannah menangis-nangis.

    Ya Allah, semoga kasih sayang kedua anak ini terus utuh sampai bila-bila kerana nanti bila aku tiada, mereka hanya ada sesama mereka untuk menjaga diri sendiri.


    www.tips-fb.com Menanti hadirmu

    Monday, October 07, 2013


    Seminggu lagi, InshaAllah, dengan takdir Allah, mommy harap dapat menatap wajah anak mommy yang kedua. Anak mommy yang bakal di lahirkan istimewa. Mommy yakin, kehadiranmu akan membawa seribu kegembiraan dalam hidup mommy, daddy dan kakak Layka.

    Mommy sentiasa berdoa pada Allah, semoga anak mommy dilahirkan dalam keadaan sihat. Pasti hati mommy akan terguris, dan perit tatkala terpaksa menghadapi liku-liku perjalanan kehidupanmu yang berkemungkinan memerlukan pelbagai jenis rawatan, dan berkemungkinan masa kecilmu yang tidak lekang dari pemantauan mata-mata profesional dalam bidang perubatan.

    Anakku sayang, semoga Allah sentiasa melindungimu. Kami menanti hadirmu dengan tangan yang terbuka dan hati yang penuh rasa cinta. Hanya 1 minggu lagi.

    Ya Allah, permudahkanlah urusan kami nanti. Amin.


    www.tips-fb.com Update about my lovely baby

    Thursday, October 03, 2013


    Yesterday we went to IJN to see Dr Haifa to have Echo Fetal Heart Scan, to examine baby's heart condition, whether the baby would need immediate operation or could wait a little more. Alhamdulillah, the prognosis seem positive. The AVSD is categorized as moderate with measurement of 7-8mm and the valves are looking good. Anyway, it still depends on the symptom that baby may show after birth, whether she has difficulty in breathing and so on. InshaAllah, the best time to undergo such operation would be after the baby weight is more than 6kg.

    Dr Haifa assure me that I could delivered normally as the baby heart could stand the normal stress of delivery but that too is depend on the obstetrical condition/ complication.

    Honestly, at first it's really hard for me to accept what is happening. But now, I am more confident and positive and I'm sure the baby would be the best gift ever. Lovely and wonderful as any child would be. I tend to pay more attention to a down syndrome child on the street, I don't mean to stare but I like to see that this kids actually could grow up well and have their own future, although different from normal person, but just as wonderful. And the child would be pure, innocent, a child of heaven.

    I am still scared of suddenly losing her, but I am stronger now. I have to stay positive, believe that she is a strong child, she would survive and have a long live.

    The future are still blurry and everything is up to God's Will. Allah knows what best for me, for my baby and family. May Allah protect her always.

    Another 13days for us to welcome her to this world. Ya Allah, please make everything goes smoothly. Amin.


    www.tips-fb.com Amniocentesis Result

    Friday, September 27, 2013


    Finally the result are here. I wasn't really prepare for the news and was shocked and dumbfounded when Dr Ramesh delivered the news. He had to repeatedly asked me if I understand what he was saying when I was left speechless for a few seconds.

    Yes, my little baby girl are a down-syndrome child. With an extra copy of chromosome 21, she was going to be born special. Now we know why she has a heart defect and also a tumor in her brain. I was sad, scared, worried, and knowing nothing about raising a down syndrome child, I really am don't know what to expect. Furthermore, she probably gonna need a heart surgery within few weeks after the delivery. The tumor in her brain would required to be further observed before doctor could suggest what need to be done.

    I know I am going to love her nevertheless, but I was afraid I am not strong enough to endure seeing her going through all the test and operation or even thinking the possibility that she wont live long with us.  The fact that she might leave us and we have to bury another child really breaking my heart.

    I need to keep strong, I know that, but it is so hard. I dont know who I could talk to, I dont know how to talk to people about whats going on. I am scared, very scared.

    Next week, my husband and I are going to IJN and see a specialist there. We need to do the preparation for the heart surgery. This is all like a nightmare to me. I only have Allah to turns to, so my heart stay strong for my baby and for me not to break down in frustration and grievance.

    Dr Kanaga advice that I try to find out more about a down-syndrome child so we could better prepare ourselves with the knowledge, to raise her as a special child. But seriously, I just don't know where to start. I am at loss now. I just hope, this child would be delivered safely. Taking one step at one time. Hoping in the end, all of this would come as a blessing after all.